It is only the 2nd week of school for my youngest. She is in 8th grade. I picked her up from volleyball practice and asked her the normal questions. How was your day? Do you have any homework? How was volleyball practice? At first it was the normal answers. My day was good. I kinda have homework but it is not due until after Labor Day so I just thought I would get started on it. Volleyball was good. Then it was I just hate lunch. This is how our conversation went. And she is crying through this.
Why do you hate lunch?
I get so tired of being pushed around.
What do you mean pushed around?
Well I will go to sit down at the table I sit at and some one will say you can't sit there. So I will go some where else at the same table and sit and they will say this is saved. So I just go down on the end where no one talks to me.
Why is no body talking to you?
Because all the conversation is the middle of the table.
Oh I see. So can you just sit at another table?
No it is full every where. That is what I do when I am on the end I look around and see if there is any where else I can sit and there is not. And anyway everyone gets mad if you switch tables. And I just think about things like what homework I have and what things I need to do.
Why do they get mad?
I don't know they just do.
Well how can you fix the situation and what can I do to help?
I just don't know mom.
I am so sorry this is going on. One thing we can do is to pray about it every morning before we get you to school. We will pray that you have the wisdom to handle the situation. We will pray for a good friend. We will just pray for a good day together.
Ok she says.
This just breaks my heart in two. We have taught all our children to be considerate of peoples feelings, do not leave anyone out, be polite. We are finding that girls can be the meanest of all. Why is that? Are parents not teaching their girls how to treat others? Are parents treating their kids rudely at home and the kids in turn think they can treat others the same way. Part of me wants to teach her to be mean and tougher but the other half of me knows that is not the Godly way.
So how would you handle the situation? Am I handling it right? My heart is breaking and I just need a little advice.